As you get older, it’s easy to think back and recognize the kind of advice you should have listened to to help make your life easier as you age. So, when Reddit user u/SoleJam_18 asked: “30+-year-olds, what is some good life advice to give to 18-year-olds and above?” people had a lot of thoughts and shared really profound advice. Here’s what they had to say:
1.“It is okay to take your time making decisions. Don’t let people rush you into big life choices.”
2.“Do stretches and fix your posture because you will not enjoy your spine being dusted by your mid-30s.”
3.“1) Once you get into your 30s, you have enough life experience that you should have learned to make safer bets, mind your own business, and understand what social priorities you have (like going to the club on Saturday nights vs. going to the grocery store).”
4.“Your teenage years aren’t as important as you think they are. When I was a teenager, it felt like it was peak adulthood, and every choice was going to haunt me forever. By the time I reached 21, those years suddenly felt long forgotten and insignificant.”
“All that really matters is now. You cannot change what happened. You can change what you do today, which will lead you to tomorrow.
Whatever your age, a better life can begin today. Seek therapy, take up that hobby you are interested in, and stop the addiction you feel is holding you back.
Reflection on the past is only useful to move forward today.”
5.“Save money. Even if it’s only a little bit every week. Treat it like a bill and don’t touch it. You’ll have some money to invest in yourself in a few years’ time when you have a better idea of how you want your life to pan out.”
6.“Anger is healthy and rational in many cases, but it is damaging to live in anger or hate all the time.”
“Your time is incredibly valuable, but it’s ok to ‘waste’ some of it in the name of mental health.
Start a Roth IRA and contribute the maximum every year. Make this your number one financial priority. Compound interest is AMAZING. Also, an S&P 500 index fund will outperform managed funds given time.
Live in more than one place if possible.
Someone who is nice to you and rude to others, especially wait staff, is not worth your time.
Don’t be afraid to cut off relationships. Talk to people before you do, but if you can’t talk to someone about what they are doing that bothers you, it’s a bad sign.
Make sure you are capable of being alone for extended periods. If you’re not, understand why and maybe do something about it.”
7.“‘Anything worth doing is worth half-assed.’ What I mean by this is going to the gym for 10 minutes is better than not going at all. Kind of learning a language is better than not learning at all. Reading one page of a book is better than not reading at all. Brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing at all. I don’t know about anyone else, but I get so caught up in having to be perfect that it often translates into me not doing anything. Giving myself permission to half-ass things let me start good habits, and now, I have more bandwidth to whole-ass things.”
8.“Try to build a dynamic relationship with your parents. Utilize their resources as much as you can, but please think independently, make your own decisions, and don’t follow their advice blindly.”
9.“Chronic bad luck? Pile of trash in your car you’ve been meaning to clean up but never had the chance? You’ve been meaning to donate a bag of clothes but it sits in your closet? Lots of parking tickets and late fees ? Always late for appointments? Focus a little too much on things you forget to eat, drink, or sleep? Trouble doing administrative tasks like filling out paperwork? Need extra time switching from tasks, while others seem like they can just pick up and go ? Hundred of browser tabs open? Feel intense anxiety when someone points out something you forgot to do? You might have adult ADHD. It is very very treatable and could literally change your life and help you accomplish your dreams or help you just manage your life .”
10.“The people you choose to allow into your life will make a huge difference in how your life turns out. Especially romantic relationships. Choose wisely.”
11.“When I’m talking to a loved one or…really anyone I like, I always try to end the talk in a friendly, happy atmosphere. It will happen (and it happened a bunch of times now to me), that this will be the last time you speak to them, as someone will surprisingly die without any prior warning. And the little consolation you’ll have is that the last words you exchanged were nice, or else it will live rent-free forever that that last moment was wasted for useless negativity you can never undo.”
12.“Don’t think too much about what people think of you.”
“‘Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.“Once I really started taking that to heart, I became a lot happier.”
13.“School isn’t everything. But education/learning is. You don’t have to go to the best college (or any), get a master’s, and please the professors. Just keep learning your way and increase your knowledge of the things you care about most.”
14.“Don’t focus too much on having the perfect body. I’ve put [weight] in the last year after years of wanting to be super skinny, and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Learn to appreciate your body and keep it healthy; it doesn’t matter if you have a bit of a belly or bigger thighs, etc.”
15.“Travel earlier rather than later; it will be easier, and you will be significantly freer.”
16.“1) Your brain isn’t fully developed until you’re around 25, so what you like, who you are, and what you want can drastically change, and that’s perfectly normal. 2) Get into healthy habits. Nothing crazy: just water, gentle exercise, and a varied diet. 3) You’re young, free, and single. This may not always be the case, so enjoy your youth and your freedom. 4) Don’t get hung up on ‘milestones’ or what you think you should be doing/what society expects of you. Find what makes you happy, and do that. Whatever that looks like (as long as you’re not hurting yourself or other people).”
“5) Don’t get hung up on the superficialit seems so much more important when you’re young (spoiler: It isn’t).
6) Be kind. It makes you and everyone around you better people.
7) Get to know what a bad or toxic relationship looks like and how to work on it/leave it. Emotions can be extra intense when you’re young, so leaving toxic situations can feel even harder, but sometimes, stepping away is the only option.”
17.“Don’t be afraid of making mistakes. Make them now, and reflect on them. It’s not bad to make mistakes.”
18.“‘No’ is a full sentence; learn how to say it.”